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Hi Jenni
I know what you mean
when Sophie was away me and my Richard went out for a meal and we talked about other things other than RA etc
it was great to put all the illness to the back of our minds for a few hours
I know how much my Richard cares for me and Sophie he is such a careing man I do not know what I would do with-out him (not just because of the illness) because it is him
I have never said this before but he is my one and only true love and no-one could ever take his place
now pass the sick bucket to me
Mary L
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Hi Jenni,
Glad you had a brill time with your husband.
I totally agree what you say though, there is nothing like being out of the home
and in diff circumstances, ie hotel , restr, etc.
My Mike and I try to have at least 4 mini breaks 1 or 2 nights away a year.
That is our time, talking about anything and everything. It makes me think that
I love him all over again ( i have been married 32 yrs) we get home and
then back in normal routine and you start arguing like who left top of toothpaste etc.
I love him though - (bucket passed to me now)
Rose
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Aww lovely post Jenni,
I will mention my Paul too - we will have been married 19 years on 27th July,
Like all couples, we have had our ups and downs but that's life - it's is a bit of a see-saw at times
We are always there for each other, he is very practical and is being amazing at the moment with my work probs "never mind about that right now - come and give us a hug!" lol!!
ok - time to pass that bucket, lol!!
Love and Hugs!! xxxxx
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Nice post, Jenni! I`m glad you and Richard enjoyed your "time-out." Nick and I will celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary next January, and I think he`s irreplacable - God knows where I`d be without him. Like Rose, we do like our mini-breaks, but I like to think we are good friends too, not just husband and wife. Over the years we have had ups and downs, like any other couple, as neither of us is perfect - far from it!! Our children have left home now, and are settled down themselves, but one thing we do try and stick to is a really nice meal at home each week, that`s a bit more special than the other nights, and we take our time over it, leave the TV off, and just sit and talk, over a nice glass. ( or two!!) It`s more difficult when the kids are still at home, I know - when the boys were here everything seemed to have to be done so quickly. Kathleen x
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Lovely post Jenni
I find it's all to easy to just muddle along and take each other for granted. My Tony has seen me through some difficult times this year , particuly losing dad and the awful time I'm having at work. He finds it hard to express feelings though, and he's never been the spontaneous 'hugs' type. it's also difficult to get him to go out anywhere- he's very much a stay at home type, whereas I feel life's too short to sit at home, and with RA you never know how much longer you have to get out and about. I even had to remind him that even going out for a coffee is a big event for me when I'm going through a bad patch with the RA .Having said that, when I was really down a couple of months ago, he went ut and got some concert tickets as a surprise!! I wouldn't be without him for all the world! We celebrate our silver wedding next year- I just don't know where the time's gone.
Maria
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I'm so glad you and Richard enjoyed your night away Jenni.
Ian and I have been married for 31 years and he is my soulmate, I dread anything happening to him as I would not cope without him, and I don't just mean because of the RA.
We are never at a loss as to what to talk about, even after all this time. In fact over the last year he has started phoning me every lunch time and if I point out we have seen each other that morning he says he just likes to hear my voice!
Sick bucket to me now I think!
He's no saint mind you, we have our ups and downs as well.
Love, Doreen xx
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Sick bucket now used, emptied and washed out!!!
Steve is my soulmate and I just couldn't imagine being without him. As Doreen says, you DO have your ups and downs, but marriage is something to be treasured and worked at.
As Steve is now retired, we spend a lot of quality time together and I love him just as much now as I did when we first got married.
Passing sick bucket over to you!!
Jeanxxxxxx
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I too feel so much for all who have lost their life partners. And yes, life really is too short but we would have to be saints to be nice to each other ALL the time! There are times when I get mad with Alan and he gets mad with me---yes --- perfect little me  but I can truly say we are as much in love now, as we were 38 years ago when we got married. Sick bucket coming back round!!!  YES I'VE CHANGED, PAIN DOES THAT TO PEOPLE.
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Aaaahhh!!! such lovely posts. We have beenmarried 37 years, but as Roy is ill too, we dont get out much (well, not at all really!!!) travelling can be a problem so its easier to stay at home. Georgia is still very much at home at 17, so keeps us busy still. We are going away to Isle of Wight on 14th August for a week, just the two of us, its the first time we have been away alone since we were engaged lol!!! looking forward to the break and no work!!  BARBARA
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enjoy then Barbaram yes a second honey moon x
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You'd need 10 sick buckets for what I'd want to say about MARK!!!!!!!
He is my absolute hero! I love him more than I did on the day we married and I loved him endlessly then! We get on so easily and are always laughing!
He is such an amazing daddy too and has let me remain at home to home educate our children and struggles so much with work etc. But as he says our home is our haven and I am doing the most valuable job, not him!
I definitely could not live without him.
Amanda
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What a nice topic this is.
I have been married to Stephen for 19 years. We have had many ups and downs, especially over the last 5 years. Both of our health leaves a lot to be desired. We do not get to go out much as Stephen suffers from nervous anxiety and feels very uncomfortable in social situations. Some of my family are amazed that I have stuck with him so long. However, what they do not think about is that he loves me and my Daughter to bits and would do anything for us. He does not demonstrate his feeling very often and is certainly not a huggy person but he is our rock. All I have to do when I get frustrated is think about my Mum who was working towards her retirement with my Step Dad. She went to work one day and came home and found he had passed away. He had not been ill and was 58. All their plans for the future were wiped out in seconds.
So yes, I love my Husband and would not change him for the world and am grateful for the quiet simple life we lead.
Jackie
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Hi Folks Pass the sick bucket I have been married to Steve Stephen for 25 yrs now . He is the best husband and a good Dad . I am the older one by 7 years .I did not marry untill i was 32 . Steve is compleatley differant too me .For a start he is 6ft 2inchs i am 4 ft 9 . He is very very quite where i am loud we are both sruffy and inderpendent No he would not go out and has too be draged along .And hates it . But he will come out for a short coffee or a snack and will go on a holiday if reminded he enjoys it .Thats him . Weather i go out on my own does not mean Steve and me are errrrrr . christine The chocolate eating housewife ...The washer woman .....naughty lady
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I dont know Chrissie but intimacy isnt all about sex here. Sometimes a wink and holding of hands is something lovely between us. love Jenni xx how to be a velvet bulldoser
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Well thats what we do hold hands kiss cuddle . chrissy The chocolate eating housewife ...The washer woman .....naughty lady
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I kiss and cuddle the Dog  I know I am a sad person Mary L
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Mary u made me smile :)
i kiss and cuddle the dog - BUT NOT today!!!
......I came back from work she had been sick AND had the squirts!! SO - the sick bucket is MINE - pass it over QUICK!!!! xx
lol - she's ok now, thank goodness xxxxx
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Hi everyone,
What a lovely post, you are all such lovely people and I am so pleased that you all love and appreciate
what you have, I never took for granted what I had and neither did Pete, it was love at first sight for both
of us but it took him a few weeks to actually ask me out, and we never looked back, we had our ups and downs
just like everyone else, and several people tried to break us up, but we were too strong for any of them, some
family and some so called friends, hense they are no longer including the so called family.
Pete always said he was so lucky to have met me and he did not know what he would do without me, and I felt
exactly the same way, we told each other, I love you, so often during the day and would just sit and hold hands
in the evenings, and we always had a cuddle before we went to sleep even when he was unwell, our love just grew
and grew and it still grows every day, I miss him so much but I will never stop loving him, as our grandaughter
describes him he was our BFG (big friendly giant).
Just keep on loving.
Carol XXXX
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